Are some people just not going to make it in life?

Question

I did exactly what i was told to do. I went to college, majored in a relevant field, did well, worked my *** off to make my parents proud. It's been over 5 months now and I'm still unemployed after countless job applications and interviews - I don't even hear back from most interviews at this point. I now realize that I'm simply un-hirable. I get that and have accepted it - but is that just it for me? At this point I'll have to just take a retail job or something similar. I am not trying to sound entitled whatsoever. I'll accept my place in the world with no more disdain. My family and I have just put in so much money and effort for essentially no output or return on investment. Are people like me just not meant to make it in life - even with the resources that were available for me and the effort I've put in?

Answer 1

Hey, I can some what relate, I just started out in the aviation business as a flight instructor then Sept. 11th occured. I could not find work in my field because no one was hiring, and no one would hire me for the any ole job either. All I can say is just don't give up. Don't lay down and let circumstances that you cannot control dictate your life. I know that is easier said than done, however, it is possible. Think of it this way, if you did not have the downs in life, you would never have the highs in life either. Also 5 months is a very short time, don't throw in the towel, like so many do, keep on trudging, and you will find out that what you have been chasing for a time period, will at some point start chasing you. Nothing worth while happens over night. I don't want to say this, but in reality it may take 3 years or 30 years, just don't give up. Take care

Answer 2

Dear Disappointed:



This is the time in your life where you find your true strengths. You earned a degree in a special field and they won't hire you? This is disturbing. However, you can type. You can spell words. You can construct effective sentences. You have a vocabulary that you are constantly building, right? You dress well. You have excellent hygiene. Perfect teeth. An erect stance with shoulders squared. You do not slouch. You are not mentally ill (like some of the people who are wandering onto this site). Can you name all of the American presidents in chronological order? Can you name at least 13 Roman emperors? How about the Greek muses, can you name all nine? Can you name the four major islands of Japan? Can you give us the capital cities of Estonia, Latvia and Lithuania? Where exactly is the Mariana Trench? What is the nearest country to the trench? How deep is it? BINGO. You are an educated person. If you know all of the above, does that tell you anything about what you have yet to learn? You can learn massive amounts of interesting subject matter. This will give you all the ammunition you need to land any soft skill job in America. Whatever it was that you majored in college, that job will come a bit later. You need to spend some time stalking that line of work. Are you bristling with HARD SKILLS? Then hold tight, you will figure it out. It is a plan of action that will suddenly strike a chord and open the doors. The German people are the most productive people on the planet and yet they were tricked by a madman. They built intelligent U-boats that sank thousands of ships and polluted the entire Atlantic ocean. That all could have been avoided if they did not allow themselves to be tricked. You can apply this same scenario to yourself. Do not allow yourself to be tricked by the fools who did not hire you even though you had a degree in that area. You are going to make it in life without a problem. You just have to outsmart the fools who cannot see you for the trees. So use this free time to find other employment to occupy your mind. As you wend your way along, things will appear to you. Doors will open for you. Light will come shining down and beckon you to the right fork in the road. Put on your best business suit with your brand new business shoes and begin marching from building to building.



You will be SHOCKED to see how fast you gain an even keel.



Stay the course. Follow the twin Bonanza downwind ahead of you. You're on a glide path. Maintain your course and speed. The harbor is on your starboard side. See how much fun it is to PLAY with this problem?



That is the key. Just PLAY with this until you are nestled into your true calling.

Answer 3

That's quite a question lots of people ask. Jobs and career comes first on most people's minds. Mine too. I started working at 18, beginning with flexible hours job. Later I went on to study a while. Then I continued working. I can say, I'm really good at studying but I'm not that good with jobs because I have health issues. My problem is with my womb. I have a diagnosis to that even. That has caused me irritabilities and due to two of those now, branching first from the primary factor, my performance is never really good when it means catering to an employers wants. Own business also doesn't really seem like a good idea. So I just live day by day. I work but depending on my health status at that time. I do question "are some people just not going to make it in life? To myself." But then life is more than money. Everyone should already have their own savings to back them up in darkest days. There should be more to the answer, I still wonder what.

Answer 4

Been there, done that. Have friends who have been through this, too. Yes, at some point you have to just take what you can get. It's not just you. We have been told things that are not true in today's world. Odds are good your parents didn't realize it wasn't true. Because of these untruths, though, about spending all this money on college equating to success, a LOT of people are in your shoes.



As someone who has been through this, let me just say--it will be harder for you to make it, but you still can. While I worked a crappy job at a hotel, I figured out what I really wanted to do with my life and then took the cheapest steps I could find to get on that path (i.e. no more degrees or school programs!!) I got on that path, and now I'm on another one in the same field that will lead to a 6-figure salary, depending on where I live, within a few years. If money and career are what you consider success, anyway...I actually consider happiness success, but that's a lonely road to be on because most other people don't.



So, take the retail job and spend your free time really evaluating what you want to do and how to get there without going back to school. Read a lot of articles, forums and blogs related to how to achieve your goals. Unfortunately, the truth is that for most successful career paths you really don't need school and never did...

Answer 5

Keep your head up , You will find your place . Try not to linger in despair as it is not good for your psyche . You are more than qualified I'm sure and are expecting to earn what you deserve . Unfortunately some companies will not hire someone who they feel is asking too much money with less experience than other applicants. With that said don't adjust your salary needs UNLESS the company can guarantee a future pay raise(s) in the future on PAPER. Have you ever considered working from your phone to make some cash and help boost your confidence and self worth ? That would certainly help you get motivated and excited for your future ! Stay strong my friend

Answer 6

So here's how the real world works:



A lot of jobs want direct experience and prefer it over a degree. Quite honestly, sometimes it is better to start off at a job and work your way up in position instead of going to school. A person with an advanced degree and yet no work experience...the companies are iffy. You don't just graduate and instantly get some amazing job in whatever fields you majored in. A lot of graduates have to take other jobs totally unrelated to their degree while searching for the type of job that they're looking for. Who knows...you may even find a job that you really like and may not want to try to get into the field you majored in, after working your way up.

Answer 7

Five months after graduation is not that long. I wouldn't despair just yet. The other answerers give excellent suggestions. Did you do any internships or get any work experience in your field (paid or unpaid)? If not, you may want to look into that. Recent graduates can still do internships. You may need help with interviewing.



Also, it sounds to me like you are just going through the motions like a robot. You just follow these routine steps and then you magically get a job. Do you really, really want a career in the field that you studied? Or do you just want a job? What attracted you to that field? Why do you want to work for the companies that you apply to? What do you want to accomplish in your career? Show some enthusiasm for your chosen line of work. Tell the interviewers what you will accomplish for them on the job.

Answer 8

I assume you are young - and that is the best asset you have. I'd gladly switch my assets for your age.

Getting any job that would have you meet people and make money is a positive step. It may not be the field you chose and love. I know people who majored in music and work in computers. I know of people who graduated in engineering - electronics and do farming. The best advice I can give you is to stay true to your values (not necessarily your field), and find a way to work for yourself (start a business, work in a startup). Keep your spirits up and even consider relocating to get something you like.



And yes, some people don't "make it" if "make it" means to stubbornly expect things to go your way all the time. ... Life is a box of chocolates :)

Answer 9

I feel you do you really like what your doing ? or are you doing this for you parents? and just because you go to college does not mean people will hire you college does not mean job it just gets you ready to start executing what you learned and putting it in action that's how employers will notice you they don't care about that you went to school fore years what they care about is the physical experience on the field and proof of that trust me I been there before I went to school for years till i meet a business man and told me the same thing your playing under the system playing under the system is like building a company you have to prove your self for employers to want you If I was you I will do a internship program so you can look good or start your own company if you want to lead that's what i'm doing now.

Answer 10

If you give up this easily, you will not make it in life. Many people are finding that if they don't find a job while they are in school, they might take 18+ months to find that first, relevant job in their career field, depending on the need in that specific field. You might look into getting a job through a staffing company, personnel service or temporary placement company. Perform targeted job searches, or simply take a job within a company, doing something unrelated, just to get your foot in the door, and look for internal job postings, where most jobs start, and may never be published outside the company.

Answer 11

Yes, but you can't roll over and be a push over either. You have to do research fight and be assertive for your rights. Don't Let that happen, there are too many people playing seedy, shady, dark, duplicity, and lies to make sure only a select group gets a head. You have to make managers, executives, and supervisors, and the government know. This is not working out at all, I should not have to confront to get hired! But it helps, if you dress up, join a church and social groups, make friends, go into a business dressed professionally like Debrah Norville, Beyonce, Jennifer Lopez, Beth Behr or Ivanka Trump, men, like Mario Lopez or Eric Trump. Give them your resume', organize a portfolio, briefcase, and binder. Tell them what you can do for them, your skills, degrees, knowledge, your experiences, and achievements, because their are too many frats, sororities, men's clubs, and colleges dictating the out dated tax codes, laws, and who can get hired and whom can't.

Answer 12

You never told us what major. Not all STEM fields are in high demand. Some need a masters or PhD. You have to be willing to move anywhere in the country when you graduate. You have to give yourself experience in your field (outside of what the school says) while you are in college.



For example, my daughter taking economics but everything slanted towards her favorite field, transportation was offered a job when graduating auditing construction jobs for a state department of transportation. By then she knew the entire interstate system, has over 20,000 miles riding on Amtrak, has discovered why the death rate per lane mile is much higher on some parts of the Interstate system and had driven a railroad locomotive. And tons of other stuff all above and beyond what the school offered.



While an undergrad she also trained as an emergency medical technician to learn all about first responder transportation issues. That led to a paid internship in DC while doing her masters and she was part of a team who wrote a safety manual for first responders.



All that said, the field you may want to look at is industrial sales in your field of education. I do not mean retail. I mean the job of selling product to retailers. This is the big money part of any field. Where I work, while I make good money, the sales people are the ones who drive the flash cars and make out well.



To qualify for sales you need to join a Toastmasters club in order to learn how to speak to people in a convincing manner (it is cheap). and maybe see if you can sell cars for a while. So you learn how to sell.



Good luck.



Mind you, she went on to a PhD in civil engineering and intelligent transportation design as she also discovered that in the sciences, almost everyone gets their tuition for free for a masters and PhD and get paid some expense money. It is called a graduate assistanceship.



At this stage you may have to do unpaid internships for experience.

Answer 13

Though you might have done everything right in your mind and would want to excel as soon as possible, there are always stumbling blocks each person would have to hurdle.



Most of us that graduated would want to find a job in the career filed we selected in college and immediately be successful and climb th ladder to the top.



You might want to sit down and appraise the positions you have applied for and if they were entry level jobs or required more experience. There might be things you are able to do better or perhaps improve on. You might want to reevaluate some of the things you did or said during interviews and other things in your presentation you might have over looked.



You might also need to see if you might be hired as an intern at a firm that would be in the field you majored in in college.



It might be that you would look outside your career field to be successful. You might consider a career field in real estate as a real estate agent, investor or another field such as teaching, You would need to take the necessary course to take your state teachers test.



There are many positions available to you, however they might be hiding under a rock, you have to turn the rocks over until you find something that interest you and would you would like doing.



In most fields we select in college, after graduating things might not be as they were when we selected that field.



You should not despair, you just need to reevaluate what you are currently doing and correct any possible things you might be doing that you are not aware of, that is affecting you getting a job in the career field you have selected.



I hope this has been of some benefit to you, good luck.



"FIGHT ON"

Answer 14

Didn't your parents and the college you went to tell you that no employer is REQUIRED to hire you?

The trouble with today's youth is that you set your goals too high. No one is going to hire you as CEO right out of college!! You have to earn your dues.

You are not unhireable, sets your sites a little bit lower, and don't be to proud to look outside of your field. There is no shame in honest work like waiting tables, clerking in a convenience store, or even mopping floors.

Answer 15

Despite having a Doctorate, I will probably never work FT in my life, and so will be financially DEPENDENT on others.

How people can go out and get a loan in an at will economy, which could fire them at any time, knowing that it should/ must be paid back, is beyond me.

Answer 16

Shut the **** up! You're probably a troll, who's trying to bring people down to the dirt. What did you major in? Why are you afraid to tell us? After only five months, you've already given up? Little pussy! Those who built this country, worked there whole life, and they never gave up. The millionaires, who failed, and failed again, but still had the courage to face life. I've known people who've been through hell most of their life, yet, they're still going strong. But, you want to quit after five ******* months? Lmfao! Homelessness, and poverty is knocking on your door.

Answer 17

Are you just applying for jobs locally? If so start expanding your your job search.



Short term temp jobs will help you start paying off your loans. If you stick to 1-3 week assignments, you'll still have time for interviews.



Do you need to get a Master's degree? If so start studying for the GRE or GMAT, etc.

Answer 18

No one is unhire-able. There may just be too much competition in your field. Keep trying. Check your resume or have someone else review it. Practice interviewing too.



Read this blog from career and salary research site called PayScale for job hunting tips including cover letter & resume writing, interview tips, and more - http://bitly.com/1omMNdz . Use the search function on the right side to find related articles.

Answer 19

Unfortunately college degress are a dime a dozen and often not even worth the paper they're written on (such as most liberal arts degrees). Start your search with temporary help agencies. At least that'll get you going.

Answer 20

I know college graduates who took longer than 5 months to find a degree-related job. Eighty percent of all jobs are gotten through NETWORKING. So learn how to network and how to do well at job interviews. Start reading 'how to' books--how to get a job, whatever. Those books are worth their weight in gold.



And learn to think 'up.' Also decide to do something active every day in pursuing a job.

Answer 21

What did you degree in?



I know plenty of people that went after degrees with the title "designer" in them. They might as well have majored in philosophy, or liberal arts.



There are lots of never to be employed "game designers", "web designers", and "fashon designers", .......



If you posted stupid stuff on facebook, of other places it will show up in a background check. It makes no difference if you used a nickname. So many young people have posted crap about smoking pot, buying fake ID, fake designer stuff, and other crimes. They have shot themselves in the foot. Even if they delete it tomorrow, do not think that it is not already known to Lexus Nexus.

Answer 22

Don't give up and think you're not going to make it, or feel like you just have to accept a retail job; what you need to do now, is think outside the box.

Answer 23

sounds to me like you put a lot of money into an education for a career in which there was not much opportunity

you are probably applying for jobs that you really are not skilled for, you might think your degree will get you a job anywhere, it won't

an no, you are not a total bust, there are also fewer jobs for more people(just consider 11million illegal aliens and unemployment rate at 11milionn--that give you a clue)

Answer 24

325

Answer 25

The only person who is not going to make it in life is me.

Answer 26

I find I've been there in life recently. And sorry to say but keep on applying to jobs with your degree and skills accomplished already to jobs no one wants and you'll get hired? The jobs no one wants could be dishwasher, janitorial, sales job and labor? But someone has to do those jobs no wants wants to do right? Or keep on applying to the jobs that you got your major in and keep being persistent with it. Trust me someone will take you in for a job interview and possibly give you the job with the degree and skills you already accomplished.

Answer 27

No, it's just you. It's obvious that you're a complete loser, and the best course of action for you to take would be to throw yourself out of a window. Preferably from an upper floor.

Answer 28

" I now realize that I'm simply un-hirable"



if you stick with that attitude then you aint gonna make it



Its the "can do will do" attitude that makes it



the past is history - forget it

what matters is NOW



you dont get jobs you find out why you dont get them



employers dont want people who need to be told what to do through every single step of the job - they want people who can use their own initiative



you need to learn new skills you learn them ,

Nobody gives a f//k about what field you studied unless its relevant to the job you are applying for

And nobody EVER gives a f//k about how much it cost to study that field

Answer 29

College grads need to be told from day one that there are NO guarantees of any form with that spendy degree. You may have to take whatever you can land, until the economy gets better.

Answer 30

It's not your fault. Are you not aware the Federal Reserve crashed the world-economy on purpose?



What you have to understand is the Federal Reserve is a mafia of psychotic multi-Trillionaires, who

are addicted to money like a drug-addict to cocaine. They will not stop half of us are dead and the

other half are working for 10 cents an hour.



By 2024, fury will erupt against these bankers even inside the United States.

A new benign economy, based on fairness for everyone will be coming online.



Please standby.

Answer 31

Try going to a local temp. agency. They will place you in a position; where you can gain knowledge and experience which will help you with future job opportunities.

Answer 32

The way to get "return on your investment" is to figure out what it takes to bring on "return of investment" to your particular employer-to-be. Most folks don't "pay" heed to this basic fact, and then stay unemployable, hence your advantage over them starting now on. With this newfound knowledge, you'll have luck on your side on your next job interview! (Immediately after finding the good job, please remember to majorly thank your parents.) Good luck to you, really!

Answer 33

*sarcastically plays an air violin while making a fake sad face*

Answer 34

YES, people like Hillary Clinton !

Vote for Trump/Pence in November !!!!!!!!

Answer 35

yes. some are not. you are one of those. everyone can not be a winner. this is not G. Keilor's Lake Woebegon where "...and all the children are above average."

Answer 36

Na.We are all going to make it.Stay positive///

Answer 37

No of course not and you (if you are being honest) could easily join the military.

Answer 38

Stop living according to what everyone says you SHOULD do and live according to what you WANT to do.

=Success

Answer 39

Don't give up.

Answer 40

Love this question

Answer 41

keep positive. you can start your own business. sell stuff at swap meet.

Answer 42

Well everyone on earth will make it to .....death

Answer 43

nope

Answer 44

keep your head up

Answer 45

We cant all be on top .

Answer 46

that's right