Question:
Im in need of a job but i have very bad anxiety and i would like some advice?
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2014-04-16 22:15:06 UTC
Hello im a 19 year old male and i have very bad anxiety i get scared of talking to people because im afraid that they will ask me to do something and ill do it wrong. Or that they talk and i cant understand them because they mumble or something and i have to ask them tk repeat themselves. I have stupid stupid fears and i believe i really do have a social anxiety problem. At the moment i have no doctor so i cant get any meds. All i got is trazodone which i quit taking because it makes me over eat and it makes me sleep in too much and it never helped me anxiety. I really dont know what to do.

I have never had a job. I was on the verge of having one and then i had a panic attack in the interview still got the job and then said i was sorry i cant handle the job and left.

I was going to be a security guard but it seems ill have to work up to it even though i got the guard card and everything...

I dont even know what im asking. I guess im asking whats a good job for an idiot like me? I have insomnia as well so i have trouble getting to sleep and i can not wake up i nthe morning for the life of me. I need a night job where i dont socialize with many people or something. What would be a good job for a freak like me? My parents are upset that i cant get a job. Honestly i dont blame them and i wouldnt hold a grudge if they kicked my *** to the curb. They wont but im just saying im pathetic. I need help. To those who read this and help me i thank you. God bless you all.
Six answers:
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2014-04-16 23:07:39 UTC
I'm a 17 year old girl I've been looking endlessly I tired really hard but I got my first job 5 months and never would of have imagined it because it was so unexpected. I was scared nervous and have high anxiety but if you LET THEM KNOW after you get the job they will be cautious and will help you! They are not evil people still to this day my managers are asking people that don't understand how to do something to come and ask and learn and it's no bug deal, really everyone has fears. You just have to learn to cope with it and improve :) getting a job trying your hardest and opening yourself to opportunitys is the best way good luck!
2014-04-16 22:32:43 UTC
**Edit: Yay! I'm happy TK knows what I'm talking about (about being chill for the interview, not caring, not making a big deal, etc.) Oh yeah! I forgot to mention, when you apply, call the job multiple times and ask for the manager to schedule an interview. I'd say call two days after you turn in your application. It looks good even though it seems annoying.**



1. You're not an idiot - don't be down on yourself. That's what holds you back.



2. I used to be VERY anti social. To the point where people hated me and it took me forever to get a job. I have horrible anxiety that I take no medication for. I learned that job interviews take practice and I got good at them by doing a lot and failing so many times. I'm not saying that you will fail, but if you do do badly, NEVER regret it. Every failure is a lesson learned and it adds to yor experience.



3. Not to brag, but I am great at interviewing now. My best advice is to practice by doing a lot of interviews (that's the shitty part) - but when you do this be confident and if you're not confident, pretend you are. Fake it, sell yourself. This seems daunting, I know, but what helps me to act confident is making sure I'm energized and comfortable. Drink a little bit of coffee and eat a good breakfast and always try to schedule your interview in the mid morning. 10-11ish? That way, you don't have the whole day to worry about it. Be comfortable by dressing in something plain and business casual (usually depending on the job) - some nice plain slacks or business pants, a plain shirt, some plain black or brown shoes. If you get hot or cold easily, dress according to your body type. For some reason I get anxious if I wear short sleeved shirts so I always go long sleeved.



4. Do your research on where you're applying and look up "interview questions for ...." - some websites actually have people post questions and also look up general interview questions and practical them. This doesn't necessarily mean you have to recite and lie (even though lying can be necessary in an interview) but this is to have the answers already in your head so you can reference them easier. Also, I started being offered jobs a lot more when I stopped stressing about getting the job and being obsessed about failing or doing well. This will be your downfall. In a sense, stop caring. Just think to yourself: " if I don't get the job, it's good because it will be another experience and another lesson." Either way, you win so just don't stress about it. Don't think of all the possible worst things that can happen cause that will only hurt you and overwhelm you (plus we anxious people always expect the worst when it's actually not that bad).



I still suffer from bad anxiety but I've come a long way and I know you will too. But the only way you can over come these things is rewiring your thinking into positivity. Ignore negative, angry, and scared thoughts. Let go and let yourself not care a little. It's freeing and you need it.
delive_rance
2014-04-16 22:31:48 UTC
What you need is NOT A JOB but a MEDICAL attention or as you put it a doctor to help you curb your anxiety attack every now and then. A job cannot help you on this, the more you screwed up the more you will blame yourself for it. You will jump from one job to another because of this. And every company have no choice but to fire you and the next and the next job you acquire once you done something wrong and blame yourself for it. It will NEVER END. The best thing is find a cure first to your ADD or anxiety problems, then if you are partially or fully cured, that is the best time to find a job, but not now. You can ask your parents to help you out for the medication and the visit for the doctor's fee.
T.K
2014-04-16 22:37:01 UTC
I used to be like this, I would get all dressed up my best shirt and tie and go to interviews feeling confident and the second the questions started I would crumble.



One day and I do mean one day I just got up and said Im tired of not having a job and not having any money so I applied for probably about 50 jobs and only like two places called me.



I went to my first interview and to be honest i didnt even care about it I acted non nonchalant like it didnt even phase me, I acted as if I were meeting a friend for coffee



I got the job and the rest is history I have been at this place for 5 months now and made alot of good friends
2016-03-09 06:07:02 UTC
Personally, if I were you, I would have meds as the LAST resort because of your parents being drug addicts. However, I do know some things that could help. I have terrible anxiety too and am forced to deal with it in the best way possible. I think you are so attached to your kids because of fear of becoming like your parents and not being there for them. Also, it may help to see the "warning signs" of an anxiety attack, like dizziness or sweating so you can be prepared for it. I know this is probably going to sound crazy, but I've found that hypnosis really works and that reading relaxation scripts help as well. Just remind yourself that your panic attack(s) will end eventually since your body can calm itself down. Also, I highly reccommend seeing a therapist. From one anxious woman to another, everything will work out. God has a plan for all of us. 😊
2014-04-16 22:23:26 UTC
a book shop something quiet like that an internet cafe at night maybe im pretty socially anxious as well although i dont have panic attacks im very similar in those fears. i guess the best piece of advice i could give you is to come out of your shell and socialise we all go into a shell and some time in our lives its even necessary half the time to avoid being hurt but there comes a time when your safe and should come out of that shell.


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