What do you do with a very rude, vindictive co-employee that you have to work with?

Question

She treats our customers like crap, and she treats me the same. Every time I try to help her with something she puts me down..or better yet, just ignores me. I really dread going to work when I know she is going to be there.

Answer 1

I like the suggestion of talking to the supervisor. The job of the supervisor is to take care of things like that--I've talked to my supervsior about co-workers I've had problems with, and there have been no more problems. I hope that you have documented the situations in which she has disrespected you.



Something I did with a co-worker that treated me like ****, is to confront her. Preferably in front of others, preferably in front of someone who will back you up to the supervisior. Just say, "I've had it with your rudeness, and if you cannot treat me with the respect I deserve, do not bother speaking to me at all." The two co-workers I had to confront, now do not speak to me--as in they walk by me and we ignore each other completely, but I like it that way. Please let us know how your situation works out.

Answer 2

STOP! Unless she is doing something that actually hinders your work, I wouldn't go to the boss about rudeness. She may be reprimanded, but she very likely won't be fired, and she'll be worse than before, while you may get a reputation as someone who can't handle minor difficulties. Since you must work with her, ignoring her is not the answer; it will simply give her something else to complain about.



There is only one way to come out on top of this situation - kill her with kindness, in front of your supervisor whenever possible. Help her ONLY when she asks for it or when disaster is imminent. Do your job wonderfully well and refuse to participate in her bad behavior. Trust me, people will notice.



Practice these phrases:



"I'm sorry, I was concentrating on something else. What did you say?"



"I know, sometimes this job can be so frustrating."



"I guess I just didn't explain this well enough - would you like to go over it again?"



"I wish I could be more help to you - maybe you should ask (fill in the blank)."



Not only will this work, you'll get the satisfaction of being righteous and devious at the same time. What a feeling!

Answer 3

Ignore her and avoid her as much as possible. Do nothing for her unless it is absolutely required of your job. At the same time be very nice and helpful to everyone else who is the same. Put your time and energy into coworkers that are good to work with. Socialize with them also, do things outside of work and develop good relationships at work with others. Don't let a little dead weight ruin it for you, every place has some. You just have to learn to work around them. In time she may see life is easier as a team player and if not, oh well its her loss.

Answer 4

I know exactly what you mean, I been there. I bet she have family problems and want to take her anger out on others.



If I were you, file a grievance and see what happen. If you have enough people complaining about her behavior, management will get rid of her; if not, it's time to go. You do not have to put up with such drama everyday, it's not healthy. Your co-worker is bitter about life and hates you for loving yours. I've been there.



I've quiet that low paying job and MOVED UP in pay rate and career. My ex-coworker is still in the same old position with 50 cent yearly raise. Karma I guess.

Answer 5

Sounds like you will just have to put up with it, or look for another job. I doubt that anything you try to do with this person will ever change the way she acts. Does management know of these problems? Maybe someone should tell them that she is rude to the customers. Then maybe she will be nicer to everyone or get fired.

Answer 6

I would definately talk to my supervisor! Especially if she treats the customers like crap!! Tell your supervisor that something needs to be said and done about the situation because it should not be happening. Nobody needs to be putting up w/that! Including yourself!! Make sure you bring up specific events that have happened so it will be easy for your boss to understand what's really going on.

Answer 7

I work with lots of these people, they seem to think they have the right to make your day hell!

You need to ignore them (where possible) otherwise do the bare minimum for said person, apart from that you need to front up to them and let them know that you are not to be messed with, I'm lucky im 6"3' with a shaved head so i'm normally the last person to be toyed with at work!

Answer 8

Talk to your supervisor or manager about what you have witnessed and you tried to help her without any success and let your supervisor or manager handle the situation. I'm sure once they here about the problem being with customers they will take care of the problem.

Answer 9

It would depend on where you work. Different coping strategies work in different environments. Not knowing where you are employed I can only generalize and generally people respond well to a swift kick in the @ss that actually lifts them off the ground a little bit.

Answer 10

ignore her to try to move to another shift. you may have to tell her how you feel about her before you really go off on her for treating you like s h i t

Answer 11

Send her boss an anoymous letter from someone, maybe even a customer if you can get away with it, about how crappy she treats people.

Answer 12

Ignore her. If she's rude to your face, pause, look her in the eye and say something along the lines of 'you are a waste of my time,' walk off and then proceed to ignore her.

Answer 13

be very, very, polite, and keep your fanny well covered. don't offer her help unless she asks. be extra nice to the customers and set a good example, trust me your boss will figure this girl out...

Answer 14

To search another work and then never ignore her.

Answer 15

Totally avoid her. If possible transfer her to some other place.

Answer 16

Be just as rude and mean to her as she is to you. Even meaner if necessary. Maybe then, she'll get the message.

Answer 17

back stab her when she least expects it

Answer 18

SHOOT HER